You are your own sunshine

I’m never completely happy. No matter where I am, what I’m doing, even if everything is going great I feel a little void inside.

I have been unable to pin point the cause of my sadness. It just comes on all of a sudden. Sometimes I could be laughing one moment and immediately later I could feel something tilting my mood down the slope.

I thought if I recieve enough validation I could feel better about myself. But that didn’t work.

I thought if I managed to get my family to focus thier attention on me and stop me when I start rumbling, that would save me a lot of headache. But it doesn’t work that way either.

I thought if I could find that one hobby to concentrate all my focus on or an aim to live my life by, that would keep me busy enough. But that doesn’t help.

I’m searching outside me for a source of happiness. A part of me also knows that it should come from me, but how to be my own sunshine when the storm coulds are also within me?

Self Care

Most of the time we spend our energies trying to provide our loved ones with care. And other times, simply get overwhelmed by our daily routines and neglect ourselves.

Let’s pause each day for a few minutes and pay attention to what we need.

Get Proper Sleep

If there is a routine that helps you get undisturbed sleep then follow it. If you feel tired during the day, just close your eyes for a few minutes and sit or if possible, take a brief nap.

Eat Regular Meals

Eating small portions at regular intervals helps keep my system in check. Follow the regime that’s good for your body.

Drink Your Bottle of Water

Carry around a bottle with you and make sure you finish it all.

Have A Long Hot Water Bath

I often find that hot baths calm my mind. I also like to keep changing the fragrances of my bath so that there is a different freshness each time.

Express What You Feel

Write down what bothers you or talk to your best friend or have a good cry. Whichever makes you feel better but DO NOT keep unsaid words in your chest.


It doesn’t have to be I-HAVE-TO-COMPLETE-X-GOAL-BY-EOW exercise. I used to go for walks on weekends and occasional marathons. Completing these small goals made me happy & got me the exercise I needed.

Keep Your Room Neat & Clean

Clutter tricks me into thinking that my life is in bits and pieces. Having everything arranged makes me feel in control.

Turn Off Your Phone

I always try to make a conscious effort to avoid looking at my phone as the last thing before bed or as the first thing when I get up.

Social media does not have a positive effect on me. So I don’t let it “get me” by switching off notifications and not going online unless needed.

Keep Busy

Keeping myself occupied helps to avoid over thinking. I am grateful for the days when I have a lot of things to do & I don’t have to keep looking at the clock wishing time would hurry up.

Break Tasks Into Chunks

Sometimes when there’s a lot to do, break it up into mini tasks. I try to time each task and catch a break in between.

Have A Backup Plan

I’m a person who timetables her day & when situations beyond my control mess things up, I lose all my spirits. Having a backup to fall back on helps in such cases.

Spend Time On Your Hobby

Or try new things to discover what you like.

Surround Yourself With People

When feeling lonely, just get out of that closed room and sit in a room with people. You don’t have to talk to them – just be around.

Get Out Of The House

Even if it’s for 5 minutes. I walk myself to nearby places. The change in air helps.

Spend Time With Your Pets

My cats actually talk back to me!! Being surrounded by nature also helps.

Reward Yourself With A Treat

Buy that dress you wanted, eat that pizza you craved, visit that place you wish listed.

Just Breathe

Spend ten minutes each day just concentrating on your breath and let it calm you down.

Let us give ourselves a lil’ love first!