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Adulting

Now that I have reached the big three-oh, I have to start taking the reins of my life from the elders. And if I have to be a responsible adult, then I need to start sharpening some Adulting skills.

#1 Finance
My Finance is largely handled by my parents. Every month on the count, as soon my salary enters, I keep some amount aside for my personal use, and the major share of it is then swept off into loans and investments.
I am good with planning my monthly expenditure and I understand where my savings are going but I get confused in the mathematics of stuff like Income Tax Returns and Future Projections based on ROIs.

I have tried so many times to understand all the calculations but every year I’m still lost…

#2 Learning to say NO

There have been so many times that I have wanted to say NO to so many things and situations, but I went along with it.

If I am going to start owning some responsibilities, I need to learn to use this word firmly.

#3 Sieving the Feedback

Sometimes some people throw taunts while talking in a sweet voice and sometimes some people angrily throw good advice at me. I get soo confused. Am I supposed to feel the emotion or evaluate the comment?

Bad comments I readily believe, even if they may not be true. And compliments I take a long time to digest, doubting every second if it was genuine.

#4 Household Skills

No, not cooking!! I got that under control. So, I may not be chef-level but I’m confident I will not die of hunger if left to fend for myself.

I’m talking other skills like sewing a button, getting over my fear of heights and climbing that ladder to clean that fan, knowing which wires go where, which tap is leaking where, what to do if someone needs emergency first-aid, whom to call in a panic situation and also what to do if the car breaks down.

#5 Learning to be okay with being alone

Like being in the house after it gets dark, Like not having to rely on others to take away my boredom, Like doing stuff like eating in a restaurant, watching a movie on my own, Like driving on my own, Like letting go of the fear of losing everybody in my life…

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Life Lessons I’ve Learned

I am not a sage nor have I had an epiphany. These are just some things I’ve realized by making the same mistakes again and again and by going through some experiences on my own.

#1 Plans will never go as planned
I like to meticulously plan out stuff in my life whether it just packing a bag for a night out or picking out which subjects I want to pursue. And… none of my plans have gone as I intended. Whether it’s a tiny shift in detail for that night out or whether it is altering my whole course of career, my Plan A, Plan B and even Plan C have sailed through the windows.
And I felt so lost each time. It’s like the minute something goes the way I have not anticipated, my anxiety takes control of the carriage… chiding me and planting seeds of doubt.
You would think I would have learned to be prepared for change by now, but I haven’t!! One thing is for certain, if you plan to make lemonade, life will give you apples! You just have to search for the pie recipe!!

#2 Never take anything at it’s face value
As a child, I used to always believe in what anyone tells me, reasoning that why would this person lie to me. Growing up, I have realized that white lies are painted everywhere. Even when someone posts an Instagram story, there are lying through their teeth. Yeah, maybe their day was good but it wasn’t as great as they are making it out to be. And also, sometimes people pretend that things are going absolutely great while in reality the situations are really opposite.
So now, when someone tells me, what a wonderful time they had or even how much they like my new T-shirt, I know that, that statement is not as innocuous as it sounds.

#3 Respect it to be earned
Tired of respecting my elders out of habit just because we have been told to respect them, I have realized that respect in itself is of two types. One, the basic respect that as human beings we all deserve, of being treated equal, and the other respect that we give someone out of being inspired by their ideals.
Many of the elders in our society just demand respect because they are older. But respect isn’t meant to be given on a platter, it’s meant to be earned. There are some people who automatically gain respect wherever they go, not because they ask for it, but because of their actions and their incredible work. Now, that is the sort of respect, I respect!

#4 You are your own soul mate
I have always pinned others as my source of happiness. I still believe that without the support system of my family and friends, I will be alone. But I am realizing that the one person that I spent almost all my time with is me!! Family, friends, partners will be a part of my life for a certain period but eventually one day, they WILL leave. And I’ll be left with myself.
It’s high time I begin to fall in love with myself and care about my existence. Because I have to look after myself, no one else should have to.

#5 Good things take time
This is one quote that I have begun to appreciate recently. No matter how badly I want something to happen, no matter how much I push for it, I have realized that things take their own time. The effort part is in our hands but the fruits of the effort part is not in our hands, no matter how much we feel we deserve it.

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Question 2

Question 2: In 10 years time, will you be proud of what you are doing now?

I am consciously putting efforts into setting things right in my life and I am focusing on doing what’s good for me. And I feel, I am ethically a good hearted person. So, in 10 years time, safely I should be good with who I am.

Will I be proud?

Well.. I certainly am hoping that I am going to lessen my regrets and guilt with the amount of work I am putting into myself. So, if all goes well, I think I’m definitely going to end up satisfied with my 2021 self, if not proud.

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